The wedding day is the most remarkable day of a couple’s life as it signifies a new beginning together. It is natural for a couple to put all their effort to make sure their special day remains flawless and unforgettable for them, their families, and friends. However, occasionally, some tend to go too far from what is reasonable and acceptable. A woman on Reddit shared one such story where a bride-to-be acted inconsiderately towards her.
Reddit user bridesmaidwoes123 was pretty excited to play a big role in her friend’s wedding as the bridesmaid. She shared that her friend got engaged about a year and a half ago and immediately asked her to be her bridesmaid on her big day.
But not long after, she was diagnosed with cancer and had to undergo radiation therapy and chemotherapy. “I don’t want to go into details about this because it’s still very traumatic for me. My hair fell out and I am recovering but my hair is still very short,” she wrote.
After the unyielding battle with the life-threatening disease, the Redditor became an active supporter of the “survivor community” speaking out publicly and fundraising. Up until now, her bride-to-be friend, being a nurse, supported her a lot throughout the process as a good friend would.
However, things took an unexpected turn when the soon-to-be bride took her on an outing to “celebrate (her) remission and end of treatment”.
“We go to a spa which was super nice and enjoy some skin treatments, massages, and general pampering,” she wrote. After the spa date, her friend had a “special surprise” for her.
“At the end of the day, she takes me to a special hair salon that specializes in high-quality wigs.”
She was caught completely off-guard by this unanticipated appointment. Taken aback, the cancer survivor writes, “Karen knows that a lot of the work I have been doing involves psychological treatment in cancer patients and avoiding the shame associated with hair loss for instance.”
Not wanting to hurt the bride-to-be, she “politely accepted the date and even tried on a few wigs”, although she was quite angry. When she was offered to buy one, she declined straightaway.
She added later, “I don’t have any problem with people wearing wigs, I just would feel like a hypocrite counseling others and then putting on a wig just to look good for other people’s pictures.
“I feel confident with my look now and felt strange with the wigs on. Just didn’t feel like me.”
The following day, the Redditor received a call from the bride and was told that she will no longer be a part of the bridal party. Without stating the actual reason, the bride blamed the minister saying he insisted that there was too much company.
She wrote heartbrokenly, “It completely amazes me because I’m her second lady honor after her sister (who she spends little time with).
I call around and although some of the other bridesmaids are reluctant to say anything to me, I understood that Karen was worried about what the photos look like with a bald-headed person.”
After being left in the dark, she tried calling her friend but she was left unanswered. Confused as to whether or not to go to the wedding or if she was just overthinking, she asked the netizens for advice. Her post received many replies from the Reddit community.
One person wrote, “If you were my bridesmaid we would be rocking that short hair! I would have been proud to have you stand beside me…”
Some even criticized the bride’s behavior saying “Too bad her pictures won’t capture her awful and superficial character.”
What would you have done if you were in her place?